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Thinking Aloud
Getting a life
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Right now, I am in a point in my life where I feel totally lost. Prior to this, I felt so sure of myself, so certain about the place where I wanted to go, what I wanted to accomplish.

Now, I am torn between the feeling of not being satisfied with oneself and the depressing thought that perhaps things do not really end up as planned.

Part of me says, "Hang in there. If you stick with what you really want, it will happen."

Another part says, "Get real. Change plans before you disappoint yourself."

These internal conflicts led me to realize that I need to know myself better. Because only then can I make justified choices.

So there, I am now traversing the unknown path that is myself.

September 2, 2009 | 6:16 PM Comments  13 comments

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sidsayed siddiqua
September 2, 2009 | 10:20 PM

happened to me too. the best thing to do is to neevr regret that things never happened the way you wanted them to because that way you'll lose out on planning what to do next. good luck.
EmmanuelE Emmanuel E.
September 3, 2009 | 3:42 AM
Good luck!!
There was really time in your life when you will feel so unsure of the things that you are doing. Don’t worry! You are not alone! Almost every youth are passing in that state where they want to know their self better for they are feeling very unsure and doubtful. I am hoping that you can make it through! Anyway, you can try to relax a bit and try Greek foods. If you live in Chicago and love Greek food, then this will make your day – Kronos Gyros is giving out free food. That's right – free gyros from Kronos Gyros. All you have to do is go to the Kronos website and print out the free coupon – then take it to any participating location in the Chicago area, which is featured on the Kronos website. Kronos isn't a restaurant; they are actually a restaurant supply company that specializes in Greek delicacies. (Gyros are particularly succulent when laden with tzatziki and hummus, or baba ganoush…delectable.) So if you want some delicious free Kronos Gyros, get the coupon – it's easier than applying for mortgage loan modification.
ether3 Serge Mario
September 3, 2009 | 12:07 PM
That is life
You know it is normal to have such a feeling.Life is made up of ups an downs.Just try to be as positive as possible. No situation is permanent.But the need of the realisation of what we are is the best.
Best
JBK36 Me
September 5, 2009 | 3:40 PM
To you...and me...and everyone else.
If you wan't it take it.
After all, we only live once.

Here is a qoute from my old athletics coach: "there is nothing you cannot do, it all depends on how bad you really want it"

Live the dream in you!

All the best!

calieel Rashad Amahad
September 8, 2009 | 11:10 AM

Hey it is my birthday today and millions of other share this same day I was made to ensure that you make it today take each day which are different one day at a time always hope for the best for this is the day that the lord has made you must rejoice and be glad in it.GUARD YOUR THOUGHTS you decide what you will listen to thought become words words become actions, actions form habits form character.think good thoughts it has been working all my life.
faywang Wambui
September 16, 2009 | 10:12 AM
hi
You know what, i was so suprised to read this entry because it describes exactly what I am going through right now. I feel like I have lost that sense of being sure of what i want, I feel confused and i do not know what path to take from here. My consolation comes from knowing that this is a temporary situation and that i will emerge stronger from it. I am learning alot including how to filter my thoughts and take in only the constructive ones. I wonder how you are dealing with the situation, it would be nice to know.
etauso Eta Eta Uso
November 7, 2009 | 6:31 PM
Hi
Hi dear, been a while
thrustersonfool thrusters on fool
January 27, 2010 | 2:58 AM
I think I have an idea of what you mean
When I was an undergrad in UP I had very specific goals, but after graduation and some more experiences in the industry, and of course a lot of thinking (and I mean a lot) I still find myself currently unable to fully comprehend and accept my status quo.
I think what I need is a little more time, more experiences and exposure with regards to what I intend to do for the foreseeable future, and with whom I'll be doing those things with. In other words, I need more 'data' of sort, to get a better perspective/vantage point of where I need to go.
I certainly agree with what you mentioned about the need to know one's self more, especially due to these conflicting ideas, expectations, and my status quo. I think I need to look more internally, but externally as well, as I'm a very introverted person. Introversion can sometimes have its pitfalls, but I prefer it most of the time nonetheless. But still, a little extroversion from time to time shouldn't hurt...
sandygaspay Sandy Mae
January 29, 2010 | 1:10 AM

My problem was that I always wanted to have a full-proof plan for my future. I like making Plan A's and Plan B's and Plan C's for those "just-in-case" moments. But never really know, do we?

Right, we definitely need more "data". I'm currently in that phase and I just realized that I shouldn't be afraid of making mistakes. Better to just keep the ball rolling and just grab hold of the good opportunities that come my way.

If introversion is your thing, so be it! But yeah, the extrovert's social skills do come in handy once in a while. Im sure you can handle it.
thrustersonfool thrusters on fool
January 29, 2010 | 2:21 AM

I think being well informed about a great many things, as well as being trained as an engineer really help me make those Plan C's you mentioned. Of course we can't anticipate everything, but I try to narrow down the ones that maximize my efforts and those that are significantly injurious to myself/future. I don't know about you but I prefer to have plan B and C with my plan A, than just have plan A alone.

Yes I'm more often than not an introvert, but I'm slowly learning the benefits of extroversion, not that I want to really be extroverted more.
sandygaspay Sandy Mae
January 29, 2010 | 12:24 PM

"I don't know about you but I prefer to have plan B and C with my plan A, than just have plan A alone."
-Of course! What I meant by my statement in my earlier comment was that I always wanted to be sure about everything to the point that I was overanalyzing things and ended up complicating what seemingly was just a simple problem.

"but I try to narrow down the ones that maximize my efforts and those that are significantly injurious to myself/future"
-this tells me you've gone further in "data collecting" than I have. I am currently at a point where I still cannot distinguish which efforts will be injurious to my future, except for the very obvious ones, of course. Or perhaps I already have all the data I need but just haven't "organized" them yet?

UP Engg ka pala. No wonder I feel like I've had this conversation before.
thrustersonfool thrusters on fool
January 29, 2010 | 7:45 PM
@Sandy
Actually that's (over analysis) one of the things that come as good-bad to me, but more often than not good I suppose. Imagine this scenario I sometimes find myself into:
I usually buy brand X of milk. However, the supermarket is currently out of stock with brand X, so either I (a) Don't buy milk or (b) buy another brand. Now, if I take (a), do I allow myself to go on without milk for X number of days (assuming I can't go back so soon or the sales attendants have an inkling of when the stock will be replenished, which is usually not the case...). If I take (b) I need to quickly go over brand Y's calorie values, as well as calcium, protein, carbohydrates, etc. while also factoring in the price per mass (hey, value for my money right?) considering I consume at least one/2 glass/es of milk per day. Then there's the issue of the brand Y's manufacturer. Do I trust this company? What do I know about this company so far, from tv (I watch a little when I go home to the province...), the Internet, from friends, other ads, etc. Does the company try to stay 'green' for the environment? Is it a locally made but quality product (I try to support local businesses as much as I can)?
And so on and so forth. So you see, it can really be a hell in my head at times. And I think you can imagine that sometimes, I can really take a while even with just buying groceries. But as long as not a lot of new stimuli/data come in during grocery buying, I usually do it quite fast since I just usually head to and get the things I need to buy. :D

thrustersonfool thrusters on fool
January 29, 2010 | 7:46 PM
@sandy
"this tells me you've gone further in "data collecting" than I have. I am currently at a point where I still cannot distinguish which efforts will be injurious to my future, except for the very obvious ones, of course. Or perhaps I already have all the data I need but just haven't "organized" them yet?"
Since I don't know you well enough, it would be too presumptuous of me to say which one, though if you'd ask me to take a stab/guess at it, I'd say it may be a little bit of both, but leaning on the latter (not yet organized) part. The reason being that UP education, as my English 11 teacher told us once, will not leave you 'unscathed' in one way/aspect of your life or another, before graduating. Especially more so with you and your activities and involvements. So, what I'm driving at here is that perhaps you need a bit more organization, or even a change of perspective for a while, just to try and put some of the 'data' in their proper place.

Yes, UPD Eng'g.
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